You don't have to go to that family function.
You don't have to make that call to that person. Or send them a message. Or get them a gift. Or a card.
You don't have to plan it.
You don't have to show up to the things that don't bring you energy.
You don't have to smile today. Especially if it's not real.
You don't have to watch your temper or push away emotions if they are going to make other people uncomfortable. When they make other people uncomfortable.
You don't have to be comfortable.
You don't have to say yes.
You don't have to get in front of it. Or behind it. You don't have to think your way around it.
You don't have to think differently.
You don't have to get on-board.
You don't have to laugh if it's not funny.
You don't have to say something to fill the silence.
You don't have to be other people's versions of polite.
You don't have to tailor yourself. Or tame yourself.
You don't have to stay small. You don't have to stay big.
You don't have to go out today. You don't have to stay home.
You don't have to get "out there."
You don't have to be hard. Loud. You don't have to be soft. Or quiet.
You don't have to stay strong. Or be strong.
You don't have to follow that schedule. That ritual. That routine. That pattern. Or even that thing in which you follow.
You don't have to follow the clock.
You don't have to be in charge. Or in control.
You're not anyway. I'm not either.
No. You don't. You do not....have to stay the same.
Not much does anyway.
You don't have to read this. Or listen to me. Or anyone else for that matter.
You just need....to listen to you...and trust that everything falls into place.
You should want to follow what you need.
Need.
You.
And everything falls into place. It's already in place anyway.
Then all of our relationships are most honest this way.
You are obligated to almost nothing. Except the things you feel like doing. The things you feel like being.
Let yourself be.
Be.
Obligations......Blah-bligations. You. Don't. Have. To do anything.
Anything.
Do what you need to do. Need. For you first. It's the only person you could really take care of before BE-ing able to take care of anyone else.
Wouldn't clear, honest relationships be so...SO very nice? Let's be honest in our approach to everything. Honest in our responses.
For you.
Then me.
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